Monday, September 17, 2012

And that's precisely why you buy the book

There's been a lot of why bother going around. Many days I feel the Grand Marshalette of that particular parade. Self-defeat thy name is Lisa.

I was preaching the gospel of get out there and try to Nate the other day. We were commuting together and he was going through the litany of things he wants to do, but doesn't think he'd be successful doing. This nearly seventeen year old boy is already a master at negative self-talk. Oy vey.

I don't have to look far to see which donkey's ass on which to pin the blame for that.

I'm the anti-Stuart Smalley. I stand in front of the mirror and tell myself that I'm never good enough, never smart enough and holy fuck, do you know how many people don't like you?

Then I lean forward and try to rub the line out from between my eyes.

Why bother writing?
Why bother talking?
Why bother listening?
Why bother voting?
Why bother fighting?
Why bother loving?
Why bother trusting?
Why bother trying?
Why bother?
Why?
Why?
Why?

Do it anyway. DO it anyway. Do IT anyway. Do it ANYWAY. DO IT ANYWAY.


21 comments:

  1. It's OK. Whatever you think needs doing, it's already been done by approximately 675,000,000 +/- 10,000,000 people since 1850.

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  2. Gosh darn it, Lisa, we like you!

    And we ain't chopped liver.

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    1. Also, the line between your eyes, indicating thought? We like that too.

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    2. Never, never eliminate the line indicating thought!

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  3. Wait, I thought that was why we should always leave a note?

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  4. Cash would convince me so much more.

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  5. Sigh. Can we throw this into a time machine and send it to 2002?

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  6. I can relate to all of this only too well. One way of solving this, as far as politics goes anyway, is if we all get together to change things but that's so hard to do and so it rarely happens and yet it is not impossible. It has happened before and can happen again. Second, I do take comfort in trying to do my best to love myself as well as others. That extended love is what I consider my spirituality and it doesn't need a god to happen.

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  7. Crow says, 'When faced with a hard shelled nut, you must keep chipping away til it cracks. Meanwhile, help your friends keep smiling.. even if it's a snarky one like Randal's'.

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  8. hey you should be a motivational speaker...smiles....def have to work on the self talk...we will talk ourselves out of anything given half the chance....do it anyway.

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  9. yes, yes, yes!!!

    do it anyway, because it makes you feel good!!

    (alright, maybe don't give that advice to a 17 year old boy--but, for the adults, it rings true.)

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  10. I did it anyway and look where it got me!

    Actually, when I think about it, I'm happy enough about where I am ... :-)

    As I often say to my daughters, "Don't do anything I wouldn't do (and that gives you a lot of leeway)!"

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  11. I love you Lisa. This post resonates with my today. Can you send me another tomorrow? And the day after?

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  12. I fall into that same trap a lot of times. I'm actually amazed that I've kept up my blog for as long as I have.

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  13. I tried to add my ditto under Averil's comment but it wouldn't take. You, we love.

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  14. Awww! Thank you, gang. I appreciate the love.

    P.S. Things are temporarily changed at work so my online time is compressed, hence the bad manners of not responding, not being at your places so much.

    xoxo

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  15. Thanks, intellikid & I needed that!!!

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  16. You're speaking my thoughts all too well with this one. Thanks for being here!

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  17. Oh yes, I've had my share of anti-Stuart Smalley funks too. I hope yours passes quickly.

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